Very glad to read your reflections on returning home. I especially resonated with the idea that facing your family is the ultimate test of your progress in self-growth. At the same time, examining what makes one uncomfortable or distressed to get at its root cause is to be welcomed not avoided. This makes perfect sense. My New Year’s resolution to “ Just Do It!” is in perfect synch because action is the means to progress. Examine the results and then move ahead. Much better than to stonewall and feel resentful. Being honest about one’s needs and examining the aftermath when they are disclosed IS progress. Thanks so much for sharing your personal journey. It is reinforcing as well as informative.
What was your rebellious part doing when you invited yourself to your own personal hell?
I find myself wanting to do the ultimate "love & light" bypass version of this, where I just skip through the work in establishing firm boundaries/not being manipulated by guilt and go straight into pretending to enjoy things I hate :D
I took some time to ponder over this and what I believe now is that the part that used to rebel was transformed. Now I can set boundaries and also surrender, both through my chief rather than parts. Interesting question, helped me understand things better, so thanks!
Do you hate the things you are doing or is it something deeper? Are the feelings about the activity itself or about the associated feelings related to social obligations and the powerlessness to set boundaries / express yourself?
I feel like this discussion could become a post in itself!
The way I envisaged this, is that your rebellious & surrendering parts merged together to form this new balanced part. It's interesting as I've just realised that I've never really considered part's being "upcycled" in this way before, I always imagine them dying/evolving in isolation, not willingly working together (even though we discuss integration constantly).
Very glad to read your reflections on returning home. I especially resonated with the idea that facing your family is the ultimate test of your progress in self-growth. At the same time, examining what makes one uncomfortable or distressed to get at its root cause is to be welcomed not avoided. This makes perfect sense. My New Year’s resolution to “ Just Do It!” is in perfect synch because action is the means to progress. Examine the results and then move ahead. Much better than to stonewall and feel resentful. Being honest about one’s needs and examining the aftermath when they are disclosed IS progress. Thanks so much for sharing your personal journey. It is reinforcing as well as informative.
What was your rebellious part doing when you invited yourself to your own personal hell?
I find myself wanting to do the ultimate "love & light" bypass version of this, where I just skip through the work in establishing firm boundaries/not being manipulated by guilt and go straight into pretending to enjoy things I hate :D
I took some time to ponder over this and what I believe now is that the part that used to rebel was transformed. Now I can set boundaries and also surrender, both through my chief rather than parts. Interesting question, helped me understand things better, so thanks!
Do you hate the things you are doing or is it something deeper? Are the feelings about the activity itself or about the associated feelings related to social obligations and the powerlessness to set boundaries / express yourself?
I feel like this discussion could become a post in itself!
The way I envisaged this, is that your rebellious & surrendering parts merged together to form this new balanced part. It's interesting as I've just realised that I've never really considered part's being "upcycled" in this way before, I always imagine them dying/evolving in isolation, not willingly working together (even though we discuss integration constantly).
I agree, there's a lot in there.