A life beyond habits
Finding something much richer than your success
Everyone’s selling you a habit stack. Nobody’s questioning why you need one.
Healthy habits are purported as the secret sauce to success.
What then when you decide to redefine success? Is it just a new set of habits?
Or is it challenging the entire paradigm of habitual living itself?
More than habits — conditions
We’ve been deeply programmed with beliefs about habits. Since a very early age we are told about the consequences of bad habits.
Parents do their best to instill good and healthy habits in us, in order to set us up for success. Because they believe in that paradigm of success:
Behave well. Follow the rules. Do the right thing. Become successful. Retire happily.
Happiness comes at the end. As a consequence and outcome of having success. If not? You’re pretty screwed. You’ve already been programmed to be miserable if you miss the mark.
Being successful isn’t enough. You must be more successful than others, especially your friends and relatives. Those known to you matter the most. They are your benchmark.
And you win if you have better habits. Which essentially is better discipline.
So why challenge this paradigm? When so many people swear by habits and discipline as the thing that keeps them focused and successful?
Firstly, happiness cannot be the outcome and consequence of success. It has to be the precursor. It is a state that needs to condition to be experienced.
You can be happy for no reason. That’s not a ridiculous thought. That’s a permission. A permission that the world takes away from you at a very early age.
Your happiness is conditioned. If you haven’t earned it, you don’t “deserve” to be happy.
F that. You do. Always. For no reason. Even when the world is a complete 💩 show. You can still be happy. That’s the beauty. That’s the magic.
Stop fighting life, fight your conditioning
If you keep waiting for the world to be perfect and for you to reach some arbitrary metric of success, JUST To Be HAPPY, damn, that’s terribly sad. And it’s ok to be sad too by the way.Just dropping another permission back there into your life.
You don’t have to be a brown woman who’s lost everything in order to be sad. You can also be a white man who has it all and feels empty. That is plenty of reason to be sad.
Emotions are not conditional. They are beautiful. You feel them and they pass.
And then there are states — Love, Joy, Peace. These need no condition either. And they don’t just pass, they can be lived in. ALL The Time.
I’m telling you as someone who was chronically anxious and went through years of deep depression. Today, I’m living in Peace and Joy and Bliss and Gratitude and Love and Beauty. And I’ve been living in these for a few years now. More and more each time.
I call the state of feeling it all as Enlightenment or Grace.
And it’s not that tough.
If anything, I can say that it’s a lot tougher to live in the constant fight and struggle with life. Staying empty, angry, depressed, anxious — all of that requires quite a lot more effort than living in Grace.
Again, I know this from experience. Even today the fight shows up from time to time. The difference is the awareness and the speed with which it shifts. I stopped being married to the fighter.
I changed my inner identity from the warrior who safeguards the walls of my prison, to the one who burns down all limiting identities.
That was the skeptic and the cynic, which burned in me, as it burned me.
All those identities fighting to survive, keeping the pain alive to justify their miserable existence. That’s what is now mercilessly sacrificed by that same warrior. To stop getting in the way and let life do its thing.
Life is constantly working to bring you in harmony, and you constantly fight it to remain the other way.
What I teach people is to stop the fight and let life set you right.
That’s really all it is. It’s not making effort. You can’t force or control or manufacture it. That’s what you’ve been taught all your life. And look where it got you.
Habits or real freedom?
The new way, which is actually the oldest way, is to allow. To let life unwind you. That’s what happens at the soul sanctuary I created in the Atlantic rainforest of Brazil. Where the jungle hugs you. And the ocean gently drains the anxiety while you lay on the white sand beach.
And all the things that feel urgent and life-threatening unless you get them done yesterday, just fade away. All the conditions for your happiness simply dissolve. And suddenly, out of nowhere, you have a smile on your face. For no reason. And tears in your eyes from feeling the pure joy of being alive.
This is the life beyond habits. None of this is a result of the right habits. It’s your natural state of being. And from this state, life emerges and flows in ways you cannot imagine.
Freedom isn’t something you seek or chase or experience on a vacation. It’s innate. It’s present. It’s who you are.
You don’t forget about the material and your passion and your creativity — your genius finds a whole new level of flow and expression.
This is power truly unleashed. When your life gets distilled down to what truly matters.
You find focus and clarity like never before. You are not chasing success and winning over others. A much bigger picture reveals itself.
You create impact that actually matters. And you feel not just happiness as a state, you feel fulfillment. You feel purposeful — for real. Not just egoic and mental purpose that tries to give life some meaning.
Real purpose. Not the heavy kind. The one that lights you up. The one that fuels you till the end of time. The kind that makes you sustainably unstoppable.
Life stops getting in the way. It now pushes you forward at speeds you cannot imagine. Time and timelines collapse to make visions reality at the speed of Life.
That’s why I call it Grace — that’s the state of a life beyond habits.
Where you operate by a higher dimension of logic and rationality. A level beyond causality. Beyond space and time itself.
That is what I call higher consciousness. It’s not a belief. It’s a way of life for many incredible people who have created a life far richer than traditional success.
And that awaits you, along with me, in the jungle, along the ocean.
Come experience it. In a “retreat” that changes the meaning of life-changing.